Hi C! Currently finalizing divorce on a 7 year marriage/13 year relationship (I didn’t see it coming, and it was triggered by the disclosure of an affair 2 weeks before stay-at-home order went into effect). We were in the process of moving into a new house and starting to try for kids, and as hard as all of that was to process and grieve, the friendship changes/losses hit me harder than I would have imagined as well. I’ve been lucky to have a few longtime friends that have been there for me in an incredible way, along with my mom and sisters. I’ve leaned on them to build the confidence to start making new connections in my own city. I’ve started out with things that feel safe and structured—I joined a neighborhood book club I found on NextDoor, and after years away from any kind of religion, joined a 20s/30s women’s group at a church I once attended and was pleasantly surprised with how progressive and welcoming everyone was. Both of these groups meet regularly and have a “topic”, so I’ve found them less intimidating, especially on days when grief is hitting me harder. I also got a dog and have become friendly with so many neighbors as a result. No solid, deep friendships yet, but the sense of connection and belonging from each has been great. Also regularly attend an outdoor yoga class and will be starting up at my favorite art studio again soon. I will be thinking you of you! ❤️

I’m in the same boat after the break-up of a decadelong relationship. The loss of the relationship was difficult, but the loss of friendships was something I wasn’t prepared for and has hurt me to the core.
Does anyone have tips on how to get yourself in the mental shape to put yourself out there to make new friends again? I feel like I’m in a vicious circle of loneliness and feeling sad that makes it hard to make new connections.

I love this idea! Thanks for sharing!

Hi Ellie! I live in Memphis. Message me if you want to meet up! @sarahlizlu

Yes to this! As a fellow introvert and loner, I appreciate this comment so much! I love/crave my alone time ( I am also grateful for my introverted husband and my handful of close friends – I just don’t need to see them often to feel fulfilled). I have more hobbies and interests than time for, and generally enjoy doing them solo. Rest, activities, hobbies on my own terms is my preference. It certainly took me a few decades to be proud of my introversion and not thinking there was something wrong with me for not being as interested in socializing as others – I have learned so much (through SM) about all of us introverts out there doing our own thing.

Awesome! We have an active chain going in that group right now trying to arrange for a meet up soon. Hope to get to meet you IRL!

Hi Samantha! We started out that way, feel free to post on there and we can let you know about future meetups. We’ve been on Zoom for most of the past year, but trying to venture out soon!

Hi Alex! Is it through the stripe Boston meetup Facebook group? Maybe I’ve missed posts but would love to be involved.

Lisa